Here’s how it seems to go. You try really hard, I mean really hard, and you just do okay. Or maybe you even do really well. But you never seem to reach that level of Extraordinary that appears to be reserved for the chosen few. As you get more and more frustrated you start to tell yourself, “I just haven’t got what it takes.”
But the truth is you DO have what it takes. You’re just not using it effectively. While those who’ve achieved Extraordinary have been zooming forward, you’ve been driving with the handbrake on.
It’s time to become aware of the biggest thing that keeps that handbrake on, that gets between you and the Extraordinary results you’re looking for.
So what exactly is it that we do to sabotage Extraordinary?
We decide Extraordinary isn’t available to us
The key reason we don’t reach Extraordinary is because we make a decision, often without even realising it. We decide that we are not, and will never be, Extraordinary. This decision reflects a lack of self-belief that, if not addressed, will always be a barrier to Extraordinary. The truth is that Extraordinary is available to anyone who wants it, is willing to learn what it takes, and is willing to do what it takes. People aren’t born Extraordinary. We choose it.
We have opportunities all around us, but when we decide we can’t be Extraordinary, we don’t see them. We have so many resources available to us, but we don’t think to ask for them; or if we do, we immediately squash the impulse and tell ourselves it’s no use. We sometimes even do things that are Extraordinary, but we don’t recognise them because the thought that we could be Extraordinary just isn’t part of our reality.
So we choose average. And when you choose average, you get average. Not Extraordinary.
Make a conscious decision to choose Extraordinary right now
From this moment, become aware of your successes, no matter how small. Create a habit of looking for the good things you do, and acknowledging yourself for them. At the end of each day, take a moment to write down your successes, whether it was resisting a piece of cake, accepting a challenge at work, or handling your child’s tantrum patiently.
To further support yourself, start reading the biographies of successful people. Start asking people you respect and admire what they believe and adopt those beliefs that feel right for you and will move you forward. Finally, pick something that you already do, that if you gave it 10% more, would take you further than ever before. Then add another 10%. If you’re really serious about success and want to fast track your move to Extraordinary, get yourself a coach. Coaches are skilled in noticing the behaviour patterns and beliefs that are not serving you and will help you develop new patterns and empowering beliefs.
Now you know the main way we sabotage Extraordinary. What happens next is up to you. The handbrake is yours to leave on or take off.
So how about it? Will you focus on the best way to get the results you want with the new knowledge you now have?
Will you choose Extraordinary?